There are many reasons why people break up, but if you’re reading this article then there’s a good chance that you want to get them back. This is not an easy task and will take time and effort on your behalf. Here are some steps that may help:
Find out what went wrong in the relationship.
You need to figure out where things fell apart so you can address it with your ex. Maybe one of you was too clingy or maybe one of you wasn’t meeting their needs? Whatever it was, talk about it. Be open and honest about what happened in the past so that when you start taking these steps together, they’ll be more likely to stick.
Make sure both parties have time and space to heal.
One of the most important things you can do is give yourself some time after a breakup. You may need to take care of your mental health, talk with friends or family about how you’re feeling, make new connections in your life outside of your ex etc. The Women Triangle says that this will help you stay grounded while also allowing for time to think about what happened in your relationship and what you’re looking for moving forward.
As well, make sure that they have space to heal as well – there’s no need to smother them or put pressure on them. Let them know you want to be around when the time is right but don’t force it if they seem hesitant about getting back together.
Find out whether your ex if open to getting back together.
Often, when people break up, they have feelings for each other but a sense of clarity about what’s not working in the relationship. If you think this may be true, then ask your partner if there is any chance that they would want to get back together – whether it be with some changes or as things are now.
Work on improving yourself.
Take some time to work on yourself and improve the things you’re not happy about. This means working on your personal growth, whether it be weight loss or getting more organized in other aspects of life. When people feel good about themselves they often find that their partner does too!
Once you’ve improved some parts of who you are, take these new qualities and continue to apply them to your life. A new, improved you will be more attractive to your partner.
Don’t be needy!
This is very important. Don’t call your ex 50 times per day, don’t text him or her everyday and try to keep the conversation light.
It may seem like a difficult task but if you follow these tips from start to finish it should get easier and easier! Reading through the steps of this article is one way that we can help too. We hope that some day soon your ex finds themselves back in love with YOU.
If your after these steps your ex still doesn’t want to get back together, you may want to look into other ways of coping with a breakup.